Meanwhile, being a victim definitely has its rewards. What do people get out of being a victim? The answer is attention. Is attention important? You bet it is. In some form or another it’s what almost everyone lives for. And the reason people live for attention is that they’ve made a critical mistake. It is the same error that virtually all of us have made. We’ve confused attention with love.
Believe me, it is virtually impossible to be truly happy and successful when you’re constantly yearning for attention. Because if it’s attention you want, you’re at the mercy of others. You usually end up as a “people pleaser” begging for approval. Attention-seeking is also a problem because people tend to do stupid things to get it. It is imperative to “unhook” attention and love, for a number of reasons.
First, you will be more successful; second, you will be happier; and third, you can find “true” love in your life. For the most part, when people confuse love and attention, they don’t love each other in the true spiritual sense of the word. They love each other largely from the place of their own ego, as in “I love what you do for me.” Therefore, the relationship is really about the individual, and not about the other person or at least the both of you.
By disconnecting attention from love, you will be freed
up to love another for who they are, rather than what they do for you. Now, as I said, there is no such thing as a rich victim. So to stay a victim, attention seekers make darn sure they never get rich. It’s time to decide. You can be a victim or you can be rich, but you can’t be both. Listen up! Every time, and I mean every time, you blame, justify, or complain, you are slitting your financial throat. Sure, it would be nice to use a kinder and gentler metaphor, but forget it. I’m not interested in kind or gentle right now. I’m interested in helping you see exactly what the heck you’re doing to yourself ! Later, once you get rich, we can be kinder and gentler, how’s that?
It’s time to take back your power and acknowledge that you create everything that is in your life and everything that is not in it. Realize that you create your wealth, your non-wealth, and every level in between
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