الأحد، 15 يناير 2012

Victim Clue #2: Justifying


If victims aren’t blaming, you’ll often find them justifying or rationalizing their situation by saying something like “Money’s not really important.” Let me ask you this question: If you said that your husband or your wife, or your boyfriend or your girlfriend, or your partner or your friend, weren’t all that important, would any of them be around for long? I don’t think so, and neither would money!
At my live seminars, some participants always come up to me and say, “You know, Harv, money’s not really that important.”
I look them directly in the eyes and say, “You’re broke! Right?” They usually look down at their feet and meekly reply with something like “Well, right now I’m having a few financial challenges, but . . .” I interrupt, “No, it’s not just right now, it’s always; you’ve always been broke or close to it, yes or yes?” At this point they usually nod their head in agreement and woefully return to their seats, ready to listen and learn, as they finally realize what a disastrous effect this one belief has had on their lives. Of course they’re broke. Would you have a motorcycle if it wasn’t important to you? Of course not. Would you have a pet parrot if it wasn’t important to you? Of course not. In the same way, if you don’t think money is important, you simply won’t have any. You can actually dazzle your friends with this insight. Imagine you’re in a conversation with a friend who tells you, “Money’s not important.” Put your hand on your forehead and look up as though you are getting a message from the heavens, then exclaim, “You’re broke!” To which your shocked friend will undoubtedly respond, “How did you know?” Then you stretch out your palm and you reply
“What else do you want to know? That’ll be fifty bucks, please!” Let me put it bluntly: anyone who says money isn’t important doesn’t have any! Rich people understand the importance of money and the place it has in our society. On the other hand, poor people validate their financial ineptitude by using irrelevant comparisons. They’ll argue, “Well, money isn’t as important as love.” Now, is that comparison dumb or what? What’s more important, your arm or your leg? Maybe they’re
both important. Listen up, my friends: Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works, and extremely unimportant in the areas in which it doesn’t. And although love may make the world go round, it sure doesn’t pay for the building of any hospitals, churches, or homes. It also doesn’t feed anybody

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